In retrospect, he notes, he should have just addressed it.
“It shows honesty and willingness to discuss difficult or sensitive subjects. You also shouldn’t be embarrassed about who you are, and definitely shouldn’t let it impact you professionally.” Now Mr. Naqshbandi is Chief Marketing Officer at Frank Recruitment Group, a global niche technology recruitment agency, and he washes all nightclub stamps from his hands when he gets home.
Interviews are about finding the right match
Before founding wiseHer, a technology platform providing resources to help women thrive in their careers, Kathryn Rose had her share of interviews. One of them, in 2016, was with a sales training company. Her meeting with the principal of the firm was going well right up until the end, when he said, “if you’re looking for a job with mother’s hours, this isn’t it.”
Right away, “I told him it wasn’t going to be a good fit,” she said. “Yes I am a mom. I don’t hide it, and that’s one of the things I bring to the table. I can multitask.” The fuel from that moment led her to create her own company. “I was like, forget it, I’m going to dive in and build a tech platform,” she said.
As a teen, journalist Annemarie Dooling interned with the Discovery Channel on their house and home programs. From that experience, she applied as the intern for a local interior designer. “Her office was at her house. She interviewed me barefoot, while eating a sandwich among stacks and stacks of papers sitting on her floor,” Ms. Dooling said. “She burrowed through the stacks to find my crumpled-up resume, asked me one question about design, then looked at me, sitting on a box across the living room, and said, ‘I can’t hire you with all of those tattoos. You should think about what you’ve done to your body and how unprofessional it is.’”
Ms. Dooling walked out, knowing she didn’t want to work with someone like that. In dating, this is often called “dodging a bullet.”
And as with dating, no matter what you might think, interviewing isn’t about avoiding rejection. It’s not (entirely) even about impressing the person behind the desk, who, by the way, is a human just like you, and may be just as nervous as you are. The interview is your chance to find out if this is the right fit for you. So trust yourself — if it goes badly, that might be the best thing that’s ever happened.
What goes wrong is as important as what goes right
At 25, Ms. Rose had an interview with a cable TV company in Rhode Island. She drove over from her home in Connecticut, locked her car and went in for the meeting.